Going with the flow… darling, are you a sailor? You’ve been ‘going with the flow’ for years now and you’re still out here asking “what are we”? Lol, you guys are wasting each other’s time that’s what you are. You just need to blow the cartridge, restart the game and hope it was last saved when he first asked you to hang out. In fact, lets hope it restarts before he skydived into your DMs. Only dead fish ‘go with the flow’ and trust me, no-one wants to be in a relationship without direction. Where I’m from we call that ‘friends with benefits’ or ‘no strings attached’ but I know that being honest doesn’t sit well with some of you lot. It’s not just guys who’re acting up though, loads of women have this nonchalant attitude too. Nah babe, get your shin-pads on and go defend that corner since you wanna be one of the lads so badly.
The craziest thing is when a guy has this approach, that’s probably just how he want things to be with YOU. They can call it quits and within a month he’s got a girlfriend and within the year he’s already popping the question. I’ve heard of so many cases like this and my heart goes out to those women ‘cos they’re being taken for a Nando’s side-dish – fries without the salt bae seasoning. He’s taking this beauty out to Duck & Waffle on a standard Tuesday but he’s been telling you “there’s rice at home” for ages. Believe it or not, the guy was probably ready to settle down from the first day you met him but for whatever reason, you didn’t quite meet the ‘settling down’ criteria. You can do all the wifey stuff you want, that won’t stop him from jumping on the transfer market looking to agree a long-term deal elsewhere. Odemwingie vibes.
This market is about ten times bigger for girls mind you… not necessarily respectable guys, but guys in general lol. If a woman you’re dealing with isn’t serious about you then forget about it; you’re there sending those ‘good morning xx’ texts whilst the man she told you not to worry about is folding her into different shapes and sizes after messaging ‘yo’. If you’ve been left on the peripheral for months on end then you’re not even dating, you’re just a contestant on her gameshow bro. She’s moving like Simon Cowell and you’re auditioning to get to the next round. Trouble is no matter what song you sing, you’re always gonna be told to try again next time. As a guy, you can only ‘go with the flow’ for so long until you’ve officially parachuted into the friendzone. Certain guys are drowning in it. At this stage you’ll be seeing your dream girl go from one bad relationship to the next whilst she crying on your shoulder saying “why can’t I find a guy LIKE you”. Lol, not you… a guy LIKE you.
You can do all the wifey stuff you want, that won’t stop him from jumping on the transfer market looking to agree a long-term deal elsewhere. Odemwingie vibes.
In all seriousness, the moment you feel yourself having to constantly prove your worth to someone is the moment you take a step back from the situation. The longer you spend in a state of limbo, the less time you have to focus on the people who’re really tryna get your attention. And trust me, there’s always people out there! Know your worth, even if others don’t. And if you don’t feel you’re that special, stunt on people regardless ‘cos you’ll never be taken seriously if you don’t love yourself. And for you lot who wanna string others along, you guys are real cheeky lol. Atleti went from Falcao to Costa to Griezmann so why do you think you’re so irreplaceable? Everything you own in a box to the left.
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